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Why Can’t Senior Spouses Access MyCAA?

09/09/2019 By Meg Flanagan

I get the intent behind the rank-based limitations on MyCAA, the program that helps underwrite college courses, as well as certification and licensure programs. Truly, I do.

But it still kind of, sort of bothers me. There’s an implication of resources here that just isn’t right.

Why Can’t Senior Spouses Access MyCAA?

Again, I get it. MyCAA is meant to help military spouses of junior enlisted and newly commissioned troops access higher education. I’m totally behind this! I remember what those early days were like and just how tight money really was at the time. And while we are not rich by any stretch, honestly, we had it better than many of our peers financially.

Still, as a new(er) spouse, MyCAA was attractive. I just barely qualified based on my husband’s rank. Like by the skin of my teeth qualified. I was so pumped.

Then the plug was (temporarily) pulled as financing and bureaucratic issues were finagled behind the scenes. So my account was there, I just couldn’t do anything with the money. By the time everything was active again, my spouse had moved up and I no longer qualified.

Higher Rank Doesn’t Always Mean More Financial Resources

I’m sure the intent behind limiting MyCAA to spouses associated with certain ranks was well-intentioned. After all, money doesn’t grow on trees and MyCAA certainly doesn’t have enough funds to cover $4000 for every single active duty military spouse out there.

But limiting this program based on rank instead of true financial need implies that mid to senior level troops and families always have their accounts in order. Experience tells me that this is often not the case. Senior enlisted personnel and officers are vulnerable to financial missteps and issues, just like those lower on the totem pole.

Money issues could have been cleverly disguised through carefully balanced credit card juggling or other smoke-and-mirrors deception. You would never know, unless you’re in it, that the house load of new furniture was purchased using an almost maxed-out credit card. Or that a senior level family is living paycheck to paycheck.

Many senior enlisted personnel and officers do live this way.

But the implication of MyCAA is that they shouldn’t need extra financial help. They should be totally fine floating the cash or taking out a loan for the non-serving spouse’s higher education, licensure or certification.

Higher Rank Doesn’t Always Mean Advanced Careers or Degrees

The other troubling implication is that senior spouses should have already achieved the types of credentialing, licensure or education MyCAA supports. On the flip side, by targeting junior spouses it could also imply that this community is not as educated.

Neither implication is 100% true, but that niggling feeling of a nugget of truth is still there.

It feels like, as a senior spouse, I should absolutely have achieved XYZ degree, certification or licensure by now. And if I haven’t done so, I should have the financial flexibility to pay or borrow for it.

Just like being married to a PFC doesn’t mean a lack of higher education, being married to a Gunny or a Major doesn’t mean that it’s been achieved.

Limiting access to MyCAA based on rank makes it seem as though the community of senior spouses ought to have put this check in the box. “You’re senior, therefore you don’t need help to achieve your next career step.”

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Limiting MyCAA Limits MilSpouse Dreams

Again, I get the intent: help the spouses of junior personnel who are more likely to have less financial resources and fewer opportunities to access higher education or career programs.

Totally, 100% back this train of thought. It’s great and totally altruistic and super helpful.

But what about the spouse who married their service member later in life? What about the mid-level officer spouse who has tried to make finances work on just one salary, when more is expected of the service member at work?

Limiting MyCAA based on rank instead of (or leaving out) true financial need is hindering military spouses from achieving their dreams. That mid-career spouse might be desperately needing to go back to school, to get a certification or license, in order to help boost the family financially. Yeah, looking at the service member’s rank might make it seem like they’ve got it all in the bag: money, career, family, life. But that rank might be hiding the money troubles or desire to start a career.

Having MyCAA open, in a limited fashion, to spouses of higher ranking troops might go a long way to fixing or alleviating the well-known spouse unemployment issues. More spouses would be able to access needed funds, based on true financial need, in order to help their military family get ahead.

And helping military spouses get ahead in their own careers is supposed to be the entire point of MyCAA. Except that it’s missing a major chunk of spouses in need.

Do you think MyCAA could use a few tweaks or changes? Sound off in the comments!

Share Your Thoughts on the New Commissary Survey

09/05/2019 By Meg Flanagan

Tell them how you really feel, more quickly and easily than ever before! Your DeCA Commissary wants your honest feedback and they’re rolling out a new survey tool to help you share your thoughts.

As of July 21, Commissary customers worldwide can take a quick survey after every visit. At the bottom of your next Commissary receipt will be a link to the new ForeSee survey.

Share Your Thoughts on the New Commissary Survey

ForeSee has replaced Survey Monkey as the preferred survey tool for DeCA. Previously, customers were able to take a Customer Satisfaction Survey once annually.

“ForeSee is a robust survey tool that’s used by NEXCOM and many other commercial retailers to gain real-time customer feedback,” said retired Rear Adm. Robert J. Bianchi, DOD special assistant for commissary operations, who is also CEO of the Navy Exchange. “DeCA is committed to delivering a premier customer experience in every store and this is a powerful tool to help us do that.”

Following your next Commissary trip, you’ll have seven days to complete the new survey. You can access your survey at https://mydeca.me/receipt.

Take the Commissary Survey

After you visit the Commissary, check the bottom of your receipt. You’ll need the purchase ID and station number to complete the survey. Once you’re inside the survey, you’ll be able to rate your experience across a variety of categories.

Share your thoughts on a variety of aspects, including customer service and overall experience. You can complete a survey within 7 calendar days following every trip to the Commissary.

Survey Results Driving Commissary Practices

With an easier survey available to customers, DeCA policymakers will be able to tackle issues while still keeping what works.

“ForeSee converts our customers’ ‘voice’ into actionable insights to improve customer satisfaction,” Mary Michael, chief of the agency’s business analytics team said.

Previously, DeCA had asked customers to complete a satisfaction survey once every year. This data provided a baseline of customer experiences over the course of one year, but didn’t allow DeCA to track operations regularly.

The ForeSee system, with ongoing availability, should allow DeCA to monitor customer satisfaction and experiences on a more routine basis.

“Instead of snapping a chalk line once a year, as we do with our annual Commissary Customer Service Survey, we’re going to be able to get feedback on a daily basis and the store managers will be able to act on it,” Bianchi said. “We’ll be able to see it. It will be useable data. I am excited about that because that will allow us to transform more quickly while adapting to feedback that we’re getting from our customers.”

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Comparing Commissaries to Local Grocery Stores

One big bonus is that ForeSee will allow the Commissary to be directly compared to off-base competitors, like big chain grocery stores.

“Another benefit is that it allows us to compare the performance between commissaries and the commercial grocers that use ForeSee,” Karl Crosson, DeCA’s statistician, explained.

DeCA will be able to view results from other grocery stores also using ForeSee. This will help the Commissary to make changes in order to be more competitive with customer service and overall experiences of shopping on-base.

This survey is the first of three new customer satisfaction measures that DeCA is set to begin in the neat future.

Down the road, the ForeSee platform will allow additional surveys to be shared with customers. In addition to the receipt survey, you might also see targeted social media surveys or links to surveys on commissaries.com.

ForeSee Only Works Because Of You!

While this new ForeSee survey will be able to provide more frequent feedback for improved accuracy, those results will only populate if Commissary shoppers take the survey.

After your next Commissary trip, hop onto the survey and share your feedback with DeCA!

Be on the lookout for additional ways to share your thoughts about the Commissary via social media platforms or at commissaries.com

Be sure to accurately complete each survey, every time to check-in. Your honest feedback is what will be driving future changes to your local Commissary! Sharing the positives as well as the negatives could help your next shopping trip be more pleasant.

Will you be taking the ForeSee Commissary survey? What types of comments might you share? Sound off in the comments with your take!

Food Safety Month

09/03/2019 By Military Life Administrator

September Highlights Awareness of Foodborne Illnesses

NEWS RELEASE

Defense Commissary Agency

Corporate Communications

1300 E Avenue, Fort Lee, VA 23801-1800

Tel:  (804) 734-8000, Ext. 8-6105  DSN: 687-8000, Ext. 8-6105 

FAX: (804) 734-8248  DSN: 687-8248

www.commissaries.com

Release Number:         68-19                                                                                                                        

Date:                              August 29, 2019

Media Contact:             Kevin L. Robinson, public affairs specialist

Tel.:                                (804) 734-8000, Ext. 4-8773

E-mail:                           kevin.robinson@deca.mil

Food safety month

September highlights awareness of foodborne illnesses

By Kevin L. Robinson,

DeCA public affairs specialist

Note: Go to YouTube for a video related to food safety month. Go to the website to read the release online.

FORT LEE, Va. – Every year, an estimated 48 million Americans get sick from foodborne illnesses, resulting in 3,000 deaths and nearly 130,000 hospitalizations, according to the Centers for Disease Control (CDC).

In observance of Food Safety Education Month in September, the Defense Commissary Agency joins the CDC, the U.S. Department of Agriculture-Food Safety Inspection Service, the Department of Health and Human Services and other organizations to help prevent foodborne illnesses by increasing awareness of improperly handling food items.

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With so much at stake it takes everyone – producers, retailers and consumers alike – to help prevent foodborne illnesses, said Army Lt. Col. Angela M. Parham, director of DeCA’s Public Health and Safety.

“Commissaries have military veterinarians and store food safety specialists inspecting food sources, deliveries and products on the shelves to help ensure they’re free of potential contaminants,” Parham said. “However, when our patrons leave the store they also have a responsibility to handle their groceries properly and protect themselves from foodborne illnesses.”

Bacteria and viruses are the leading causes of food poisoning, according to FoodSafety.gov, and there’s plenty that people can do to help protect themselves from them, Parham said.

“As advocates of ‘Be Food Safe’ guidelines we want commissary patrons to understand how they can reduce the risk of foodborne illnesses when they leave the store,” she said. “Just by washing your hands before, during and after handling food you can help prevent a lot of problems.”

The “Be Food Safe” message, developed by the CDC and the USDA, is simple: clean, separate, cook and chill. They are the basis for the following safe handling techniques:

Clean

  • Wash hands with warm soapy water for 20 seconds before and after handling raw meat, poultry or seafood.
    • Wash utensils, cutting boards, dishes and countertops with hot soapy water after preparing each food item and before you go on to prepare the next item.
    • Food contact surfaces can be sanitized with a freshly made solution of 1 tablespoon of unscented, liquid chlorine bleach in 1 gallon of water.

Separate

  • Separate raw meat, poultry and seafood from other foods in your grocery shopping cart and in your refrigerator.
  • If possible, use one cutting board for fresh produce and a separate one for raw meat, poultry and seafood.
  • Never place cooked food or foods that are eaten raw, like salads, on a plate that previously held raw meat, poultry or seafood.

Cook

  • Cook poultry to a safe minimum internal temperature of 165 F as measured with a food thermometer.

Chill

  • Chill food promptly and properly. Refrigerate or freeze perishables, prepared foods and leftovers within two hours (or one hour if temperatures are above 90 F).

Parham recommends commissary patrons bring a cooler during a long trip to and from the store to help prevent foodborne illnesses by maintaining proper temperatures of foods.

“Going from the shelf to your home can be a breeding ground for potential problems if you’re not careful,” she said. “It’s vital to prevent cross contamination by ensuring different perishable foods are separated in the shopping cart or in the car.”

A few more tips for handling food safely can be found at www.homefoodsafety.org:

  • Use hand sanitizer to wipe hands and the handle of the shopping cart.
  • Clean hands before sampling food. Either bring moist towelettes or carry a bottle of hand sanitizer to use before you taste.
  • If you use reusable grocery bags, wash them often.
  • Check food packages for holes, tears or openings. Frozen foods should be solid with no signs of thawing.
  • Check for a loose lid on jars whose seals seem tampered with or damaged. Report a defective cap to the store manager.
  • Avoid buying cans that are deeply dented, bulging, rusting or have a dent on either the top or side seam.
  • Use plastic bags to separate raw meat, poultry and seafood before placing them in your cart to avoid contaminating ready-to-eat foods like bread or produce.
  • When shopping, select perishable foods last before checkout and group them together.
  • Take groceries home immediately and store them right away. If on an extended trip, bring a cooler with chill packs for perishable foods. Perishable foods must be refrigerated within two hours and only one hour if it is over 90 F outside.
  • Keep perishable foods out of the hot trunk in summer and place in the air-conditioned car instead.  

The DeCA website is a good resource for food safety. To find the latest food safety alerts and product recalls affecting military commissaries, visit the News Room on commissaries.com and select the box that says “Food Recall.”

For more on food safety awareness, go to the CDC website. Information on food handling techniques is also available at Eatright.org.

-DeCA-

Debunking Spouse Club Myths…

08/28/2019 By Military Life Administrator

By Marguerite Cleveland

     So you have arrived at your new duty station and want to meet new friends, should you join the Spouses’ Club? I have always enjoyed my time with Spouses Clubs especially when I had small children at home. It was so nice to go to a luncheon and have “adult” time with other ladies. The best part about spouses clubs are the sub clubs which are where a group of spouses get together to enjoy shared interests. Popular ones include wine club, book club, lunch bunch (how fun to just go out to lunch, so low stress) and fitness or running clubs. Many spouses have misconceptions about the clubs or maybe had a bad experience at another club. Here are some common objections and why you should ignore them.

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Spouses Clubs are run by snooty senior spouses.

     Now clubs are run by a variety of volunteers and senior spouses tend to serve more as mentors. Clubs are now all ranks community clubs not separated for spouses of officers or enlisted members.

Spouses Clubs are cliquey and I won’t know anybody.

     Military spouses are the friendliest people I know. Most clubs have a hospitality chair which helps to welcome new members. At the beginning of a club year usually August or September there is a sign up event. So many people are new each year and looking to make friends just like you are. I’ve always enjoyed the comradery I’ve found with my fellow military spouses. They know what you are going through and are always there for you. It is such a great way to meet new friends especially if you join a sub club. Can you imagine how nice it is to have lunch buddies or a group of friends to sample new wines?

I will have to volunteer.

     Most likely someone will ask you to volunteer as clubs seem to always be short on volunteers but there is no obligation. At one assignment, we lived far from the base so I just attended the monthly luncheons. Also volunteering is not all or nothing. You can volunteer for just a single event or activity. I’ll be honest, I used to be the last person in the world who would volunteer for anything but when my children went to a school that had mandatory volunteer hours. I tried to get out of it due to my husband’s deployment but they wouldn’t budge. It turned out to be such a positive experience for me. Even though it was work, I still feel like I gained much more than I put out. Volunteering forces you to look at someone other than yourself.

     So the next time, you PCS to a new duty station, consider joining the Spouse’s club.

It’s Commissary Sidewalk Sale Time

08/28/2019 By Military Life Administrator

     It’s Sidewalk Sale Time at DeCA Commissaries around the world. The events take place in August and September. Visit the Sidewalk Sale Schedule to find when your commissary is having a sale. Most stores will have a two or three day outdoor sale depending on weather.

    “If you need to save money on items for school lunches or after-school snacks, you cannot afford to miss these sidewalk sales,” said Army Command Sgt. Maj. Tomeka N. O’Neal, senior enlisted advisor to the DeCA director. “These events are like experiencing a warehouse club store right outside the commissary.”

     The sale will offer savings on case and club-pack items similar to those you would find in commercial club stores like Sam’s Club or Costco. Savings vary but you can save up to 50% off regular prices on some items. Each commissary selects what items are available. According to Kevin L. Robinson, Public Affairs Specialist, Defense Commissary Agency, “Generally these sales will have detergents, paper products, cereal, box drinks, soda, tea, pet food, cheese, yogurts, body wash, bar soap, shampoo, baby wipes, diapers, and frozen meat. For the fall event, the frozen items are concentrated on frozen hamburgers, chicken, sausage, and ice cream.”

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     There will also be items from the following categories:

•       Pet supplies to include bagged and canned food, treats and cat litter 
•       International foods such as Italian, Asian and Hispanic items 
•       Cookies, brownies, pancakes and muffin mixes 
•       Canned fruit and vegetables 
•       Sandwich, storage and freezer bags; paper products and cleaning supplies such as bathroom tissue, fabric sheets and laundry detergent 
•       Health and beauty care including diapers, wipes, soaps and body lotions

     Several commissaries will partner with exchanges for certain promotions linked to this event. In addition to the case lot formats like those found in commercial club stores, commissary sidewalk events also offer “mix and match” packages of similar items in bulk-size cases.

     “Shopping your commissary is always a good deal, but the opportunities to save more during commissary sidewalk sales make a good deal even better,” O’Neal said. Sidewalk Sales take place in the Spring (April-May) and the Fall (August – September) each year.

Marguerite Cleveland is a freelance writer who specializes in human interest and travel stories. She is a military brat, a veteran and now a military spouse.  Her military experience is vast as the daughter of a Navy man who served as an enlisted sailor and then Naval Officer. She served as an enlisted soldier in the reserves and on active duty, then as an Army Officer. She currently serves as a military spouse. She lives in the Pacific Northwest with her husband and two sons. Visit her website www.PeggyWhereShouldIGo.com

‘Prepare your survival kits’

08/27/2019 By Military Life Administrator

Military resale patrons can save money on their critical supplies

By Kevin L. Robinson, DeCA public affairs specialist

FORT LEE, Va. – The Naval Air Weapons Station China Lake, California, community had no clue before the Independence Day holiday that their celebratory fireworks would be overshadowed by two earthquakes on consecutive days, July 4-5.

Although the commissary reopened in less than a week, and electricity and water were restored to most of the base shortly after the second earthquake, it would be weeks before any sense of normalcy returned to the sprawling desert base.

In September, National Preparedness Month highlights the importance of being ready for emergencies. It’s a message service members and their families should take to heart, said Tracie Russ, the Defense Commissary Agency’s director of sales.

“It’s not a question of ‘if’ bad weather will strike or an unplanned event will leave you without electricity or water,” Russ said. “So apply the lessons of Preparedness Month and take advantage of your commissary and exchange benefits to save money as you prepare your survival kits.”

From April through Oct. 31, DeCA’s severe weather preparedness promotional package is offering various items for those survival kits at reduced prices. This package includes: beef jerky and other assorted meat snacks, soup and chili mixes, canned goods, powdered milk, cereals, batteries, airtight bags, weather-ready flashlights, tape (all-weather, heavy-duty shipping and duct), first-aid kits, lighters, matches, lanterns, candles, hand sanitizer and anti-bacterial wipes. Specific promotional items may vary from store to store.

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The theme for this year’s National Preparedness Month is “Prepared, Not Scared.” The month is separated into four activities: Sept. 1-7 – save early for disaster costs; Sept. 8-14 – make a plan to prepare for disasters; Sept. 15-21 – teach youth to prepare for disasters; and Sept. 22-30 – get involved in your community’s preparedness.

Generally, emergency preparedness officials suggest having a disaster supply kit that includes the following items:

  • Water – at least one gallon daily, per person (three-day supply for evacuation, two-week supply for home)
  • Nonperishable foods – canned meats, fruits, vegetables, dried fruits, nuts, raisins, cereal, crackers, cookies, energy bars, granola, peanut butter, and foods for infants and the elderly (three-day supply for evacuation, two-week supply for home)
  • Paper goods – writing paper, paper plates, paper towels and toilet paper
  • Cooking items – pots, pans, baking sheets, cooking utensils, charcoal, a grill and a manual can opener
  • First-aid kit – including bandages, medicines and prescription medications
  • Cleaning materials – bleach, sanitizing spray, and hand and laundry soap
  • Specialty foods – diet and low-calorie foods and drinks
  • Toiletries – personal hygiene items and moisture wipes
  • Pet care items – food, water, muzzle, leash, carrier, medications, medical records, and identification and immunization tags
  • Lighting accessories – flashlight, batteries, candles and matches
  • Battery-powered or hand-crank radio (NOAA weather radio, if possible)
  • Duct tape, scissors
  • Multipurpose tool
  • Copies of personal documents (medication list and pertinent medical information, proof of address, deed/lease to home, passports, birth certificates and insurance policies)
  • Cell phone with chargers
  • Family and emergency contact information
  • Extra cash
  • Emergency blanket
  • Maps of the area
  • Blankets or sleeping bags

            Commissary patrons can go to commissaries.com for web links to a variety of disaster preparedness resources.

For more information about National Preparedness Month, go to Ready.gov where there are also links to more resources such as the Hurricane Seasonal Preparedness Digital Toolkit. Military families can also find information on emergency procedures specific to their service.

-DeCA-

LinkedIn Premium, Free for Military Spouses

08/27/2019 By Military Life Administrator

A useful tool for networking and job search

LinkedIn is a great tool to help you in a job search and networking. Did you know LinkedIn offers a free year of LinkedIn Premium Membership for military spouses? The best part is it is not a onetime deal. It is available each time you PCS, change your career or suffer a job loss.  This benefit is due to a partnership between the Department of Defense Spouse Education and Career Opportunities program and LinkedIn’s Military and Veterans Program.

To get started you need to set up a MySECO account  on Military OneSource. Once you set up the account visit the My Transition page. There are three ways to get access to LinkedIn Premium. You can set up an appointment with a SECO career coach by using Live Chat on the MySECO website or call Military OneSource. The second is to register for an online live webinar and the third is to take the self-paced training course, “Leveraging LinkedIn Premium” on MilLIfe Learning. Once you have completed the training by one of these three methods you will receive a confirmation code that will allow free access to LinkedIn Premium for one year.

 I found the process a little confusing as you have to set up two accounts, one for MySECO and a second one on MilLife Learning. It is all accessed through Military OneSource and would be so much easier to access everything from one account. Once I figured everything out it was a pretty simple process. The training was pretty easy and once complete you get a code for your free year of LinkedIn.

In addition to more features on your account, LinkedIn also has a learning path for military spouses. Once you have access to your LinkedIn Premium account click on Learning in the top menu. Once there, search Military Spouse and the pathway will show in the search results. This is a good place to start. There are 19 hours of content starting with a block of instruction on LinkedIn Premium. The pathway can help you make a career plan and explore options like freelance work and working remotely.

LinkedIn is like Facebook for professionals and has many networking opportunities. One is the Department of Defense Military Spouse LinkedIn group. There are actually recruiters who are looking to hire military spouses and membership in this group lets them know you are a military spouse. It also allows you to connect to your peers to help in your networking.

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If you are actively searching for a job then LinkedIn is a no brainer to help you reach the contacts you need to meet your employment goals. If you are getting ready to PCS you can start your job hunt online and research companies and job opportunities. Connect with military spouses in the LinkedIn Group to get insight into the job market at your next destination.

Have you had any success using LinkedIn?

Marguerite Cleveland is a freelance writer who specializes in human interest and travel stories. She is a military brat, a veteran and now a military spouse.  Her military experience is vast as the daughter of a Navy man who served as an enlisted sailor and then Naval Officer. She served as an enlisted soldier in the reserves and on active duty, then as an Army Officer. She currently serves as a military spouse. She lives in the Pacific Northwest with her husband and two sons. Visit her website www.PeggyWhereShouldIGo.com

Should You Homeschool – Why Military Families are Choosing Homeschool Over Public

08/19/2019 By Military Life Administrator

By Marguerite Cleveland

     Military families face many challenges with their children enduring frequent school changes. They are either ahead or behind each new school. Many families are turning to homeschooling to provide more stability for their children. I turned to my friend, Mary (name changed to protect families privacy) who homeschool all five of her children. She currently has 3 college graduates who were all accepted to competitive schools and received scholarships, a junior and one in 8th grade. With over 20 years of homeschooling under her belt, she has a track record of success.

Why is homeschooling a great option for military families?

     Living at Ft. Irwin, the school on post was very academically behind the Catholic school we had attended at our last duty station. The “local” catholic school was an hour drive each way on a long, thin, road in the desert.  We still had other small children and felt a 2 hour drive was not something we wanted.  So for us, the start of homeschooling was because we wanted a faith-filled education but it wasn’t accessible.

     We realized our oldest had gaps and holes in her math and science education from changing schools 3 times between Kindergarten & 3rd grade. We found she could complete her entire day of school in 2 hours. This enabled us to travel all over CA, visit family, complete field trips, CA missions, Grand Canyon and see the giant redwoods. Real life became a bonus education.

     For the kids to have any time with their dad, we needed to be available whenever he was available.  This continued through 2011.  So when dad had block leave in October or February, the kids had school vacation.  When dad was gone, we did school through the summer and often on weekends. During this time, we also moved high schoolers in middle of fall and spring semesters.  We would have had to stay behind and miss out on time as a family.

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     Since 2011, we haven’t lived in one place more than 20-30 mos. Homeschooling has made the moves and transitions smoother.  We started with an academic purpose, but continued because we became accustomed to the freedom of our own schedule.  Additionally, the kids had more time to participate in multiple extracurriculars such as sailing teams, swim teams, scouts, youth groups, etc.

When OCONUS stationed, what makes homeschooling so great?

    When stationed overseas, homeschoolers are able to participate in DODEA classes and sports.  We opted for sports.  Outside of the academics, we traveled to 15 countries in 20 months.  The kids were responsible for directing us to train platforms, airline gates, bus stations, etc.  I would make the itinerary and they would plan the transportation.  They also had the advantage of seeing so much history, culture:   They stood next to Caesar’s burial, walked through Mozart’s childhood home, stood 4 feet from Pope Francis and rode bikes to all the Sound of Music sights. I can’t type enough about the experience living overseas gave them.  All are capable of traveling the world.

What are the keys to success and how do you stay organized?

     Success is measured differently by each family. For us, we wanted our children to have a worldly view of life. We wanted them to know how to crunch numbers and write papers, as well as look people in the eye and speak to anyone of any age, lastly, but most importantly, we prayed they would be faith filled and good citizens.

     In order to accomplish our goals, we needed to be organized and we all needed to have good discipline. The discipline to get up on time (alarms) and do what is needed each day. If they didn’t finish their work due to their own laziness or disobedience, they did not participate in outside activities that day.  Anything not complete by Friday would earn them Saturday school.

     Our rule for curriculum has always been, “If it doesn’t work for mom, it’s not going to work for the child.”  We follow a schedule and a few rules.  We school 8am-1pm, sometimes less, sometimes more.  We have an annual goal for each child. Then we break it down into weekly goals. 

     We started our kids in 8th grade with online classes. They meet weekly or bi-weekly in an adobe classroom with a teacher and 15-18 other students. The teacher goes over the material, gives assignments and deadlines, and grades the work. They’ve had teachers who broke up the class into debate groups. The groups coordinate who is covering which portion, pass information through emails and conduct the debate in class.

     When it came to the upper levels, I did not try to teach subjects I was unfamiliar with. Online classes for some kids included Chemistry, Adv. Chemistry, Calculus, and Physics. Some places we’ve lived the kids took classes with other homeschoolers in a family’s home or a co-op type environment.  Our kids have also been dual enrolled in community college courses. This year, our son will take Chemistry from another homeschool mom who used to teach science at the local university.  Our daughter will take a computer apps class from the same teacher.

So, while we started because one child was missing math topics, we continued because of the freedom it gave our family.  I never thought I would homeschool. Then I never thought I would homeschool high school. But here we are, 21 years later with 5 more years to go.

     If you decide to homeschool your children make sure to visit the School Support Services or Liaison Officer on your installation. They can help you make sure you are in compliance with state laws, for example Washington State regulates home schooling. Also check your local MWR which has many programs for homeschoolers. At JBLM, there are sports programs, art classes, and a school center with a gym, computer room, art room and even a cooking space all available to homeschoolers.

Marguerite Cleveland is a freelance writer who specializes in human interest and travel stories. She is a military brat, a veteran and now a military spouse.  Her military experience is vast as the daughter of a Navy man who served as an enlisted sailor and then Naval Officer. She served as an enlisted soldier in the reserves and on active duty, then as an Army Officer. She currently serves as a military spouse. She lives in the Pacific Northwest with her husband and two sons. Visit her website www.PeggyWhereShouldIGo.com

Deciding Who Gets the First Homecoming Hug

08/15/2019 By Meg Flanagan

It’s over. Done. Finito. Now, it’s just about getting the whole family together again, finally. All that’s left is the hugs and kisses. But who gets that first homecoming hug?

Honestly, this is a huge topic of controversy for military families, especially parents and spouses. Everyone seems to want that “first” contact after deployment is finished, but there can only be one.

Deciding Who Gets the First Homecoming Hug

There are some serious familial politics at play. No matter what, it seems like someone might walk away with hurt feelings.

Let’s break it on down to make your next homecoming super simple! All these scenarios assume that parents and/or extended family will be present along with the service member’s significant other and kids.

Single Service Member

This one is a no-brainer: parents get the first hug! When a service member arrives back from deployment, they might be the only ones there to provide a welcome.

After parents, if necessary, move down through siblings to extended family, then friends.

A single service member coming with no significant other is so simple.

Dating or Engaged Service Member

This is where the family politics come into play, with parents often butting head with significant others. Which means that everyone is going to need to communicate clearly, openly and honestly. Mostly, it comes down to service member preference: parents or significant other.

If Mom and Dad get the first hug, the significant other should obviously get the second. And vice versa.

That said, if the service member is in a long term serious committed relationship or is engaged, the significant other should take preference. they’ve moved into the “spouse” role (see below).

Either way, talk as a family and a couple before homecoming to be super clear about what’s happening and why.

There are no losers here: the service member is home.

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Married Service Member, No Kids

Hey parents, in this case, back off the first hug urge. I get that this is your baby, coming home after months away. But you’ve also been somewhat removed from the stress of this deployment.

Your grown child’s spouse has been holding it down at home, dealing with the absence of their loved one for months on end. They’ve done the bills, handled household emergencies and been super involved with the FRG.

Mom and Dad, grab that second hug and savor it!

Married Service Member, Kids

Everyone hold on, because the kids get first dibs here! Their world has been rocked by their parent’s absence. Plus, they probably look pretty sweet in those special homecoming outfits.

Get out of their way, they’re getting their parent!

After the kids get scooped up, the spouse should be next in line for a hug and kiss. There might be a big family hug worked in here, too.

If anyone else is around, work down the line: parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles, cousins and then friends.

Why Are We Even Talking About This?

Okay, yes, it might seem pretty basic. There’s an order and preference for who gets that first hug that should be pretty intuitive: kids, spouse/significant other, parents, others.

But we wouldn’t be having this discussion if there weren’t pretty widespread issues around homecomings. Especially when it comes to a mom wanting the first hug over anyone and everyone else, including the kids.

There have been cases of parents literally racing a spouse to get the first hug. Other reports of parents, especially mothers, hugging and not letting go have also trickled down through the ranks.

Let’s be clear: unless the service member says otherwise or they simply aren’t in the picture, homecoming first hugs are for spouses and kids. Mom, sorry, this isn’t your show anymore. Your child is grown, even if it’s hard to imagine. Their spouse and their kids have born the brunt of this deployment and they get first dibs on hugs or kisses.

Other Homecoming Related Concerns & Issues

Homecoming seems to be a topic of much discussion and lots of stress. And it mostly falls on the military spouse to handle the load of planning, inviting and prepping for this glorious day.

So, in case you were wondering, here are some things you might want to think about as the service member, military parent or extended family.

Returning Service Member

Stick to the plan, no deviations. Seriously. Don’t need to run a quick errand real fast. There are no rides offered or shuttling services provided before, during or after your homecoming.

Don’t do it.

Your spouse, kids and/or parents just want to get you home.

Remember that your spouse and/or parents have likely spent some time getting the house spotless for your return. Dropping your gear in a messy pile in the living room might ruffle some feathers. Definitely find a drop-spot, but keep things out of the way until you can sort them properly.

Other than this, it’s your day! Take a nap, pop a cold one and chow down!

Out-of-Town Visitors

This is sensitive. You want to welcome your hero home, but also want to avoid stepping on any toes. Which means that you need to wait for an invite, preferably from the spouse.

Don’t invite yourself. There might be other factors at play here which would make your presence intrusive.

By all means, come if you’re invited though. But rent a car and get a hotel. your loved one and his/her spouse. If you opt to stay with them, things might get awkward. After all, it’s been a long deployment.

How do you handle homecoming politics? We’d love to get your best advice!

Ready for Some Football? Shop the Commissary to Save on Tasty Items for Your Party or Tailgating

08/12/2019 By Military Life Administrator

NEWS RELEASE

Defense Commissary Agency

Corporate Communications

1300 E Avenue, Fort Lee, VA 23801-1800

Tel:  (804) 734-8000, Ext. 8-6105  DSN: 687-8000, Ext. 8-6105 

FAX: (804) 734-8248  DSN: 687-8248

www.commissaries.com

Release Number:         62-19                                                                                                                        

Date:                              August 5 2019

Media Contact:             Kevin L. Robinson, public affairs specialist

Tel.:                                (804) 734-8000, Ext. 4-8773

E-mail:                           kevin.robinson@deca.mil

Ready for some football?

Shop the commissary to save on tasty items needed for your watch party or tailgating event

By Rick Brink,

DeCA public affairs specialist

Note: Go to the DeCA website to see the news release online.

FORT LEE, Va. – You name it – from brats, wings and steaks, to chips, drinks and fresh vegetables – your commissary has what you need to make your football tailgate or watch party so memorable that you won’t care if your team wins or loses.

Well, it might not take away the sting of a loss, but it will relieve some of the burden put on your wallet to buy so much food.

“Commissary shoppers have a variety of tastes and traditions when it comes to tailgating and football watch parties. We have what they’re looking for at prices that bring greater enjoyment because they’re spending less for more,” said Tracie Russ, the Defense Commissary Agency’s director of sales.

“And we have what fits their lifestyle,” Russ added. “Whether it’s cooking from scratch, or heating up pre-cooked frozen items, we have it at their commissary.”

Here’s a simple checklist of things to look for at your commissary:

  • Meat – from fresh to frozen, you’ll find a wide variety of chicken, hamburger, steaks, brats luncheon meats and pre-cooked meats.
  • Fruits and veggies – out of the bin or in platters made to order, commissaries are loaded with produce fare to augment that main menu.
  • Beverages – from water to juice to soft drinks, commissaries have something for everybody’s taste buds.
  • Snacks, sides and condiments – any grocery store worth its salt has what it takes to fill a bowl or two with just about any type of salad you can think about, and then there’s a tremendous variety of salty snacks and dips to go with them. Don’t forget condiments and sauces.
  • Paper plates, napkins and utensils – who wants to do dishes after having a blast? Also, get your garbage bags so you won’t leave a mess behind.
  • Sunscreen – even if your tailgate has shade or a canopy, you’ll want to take measures to avoid getting sunburnt.
Photo Credit: ©arinahabich /Adobe Stock

DeCA reminds patrons they can also save on their tailgating supplies by visiting commissaries.com for online access to digital coupons via the Commissary Rewards Card, current sales promotions, information on commissary brands, the current sales flyer, the Your Everyday Savings (YES!) program and more.

Plus, throughout the month, m­ilitary commissaries are offering discounts beyond everyday savings, especially in displays at the ends of the aisles, where stores showcase products with extra-low prices.

-DeCA-

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