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SNAP Benefits Will See Continued Impacts of 35 Day Shutdown

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Due to continuing ripple effects from the 35-day partial government shutdown, families will be forced to stretch their SNAP benefits as much as 61 days.

According to numbers recently released by the Center on Budget and Policy Priorities, almost all SNAP recipients are expected to face a more than 40-day wait between issuance of February benefits and dispersal of March benefits.

The extended wait between SNAP benefit dispersal is due to early release of February funds without a planned adjustment of March benefits being released early.

SNAP Benefits Will See Continued Impacts of 35 Day Shutdown

Families who qualify for the USDA’s Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program (SNAP) have already received their benefits allotment for February. Most funds were dispersed on or around January 20. The next dispersal of funds is expected on or about March 1, with individual release dates being left at each state’s discretion.

The typical wait time between monthly SNAP benefits is about 28 to 31 days. Without an adjustment, families will need to make one month of food stamps last an additional 12 to 33 days, based on when they received February’s allotment and when they are scheduled to get their March benefits.

Military Feels Impact of Shutdown through SNAP

This wait could have a direct impact on veterans and troops who qualify for SNAP. Approximately 1.4 million veterans and thousands of active duty troops are currently enrolled in SNAP. Many are also supplementing their SNAP benefits with items from food pantries and food banks.

The entire Coast Guard, as well as many federal employees and contractors, went without pay even while continuing to do their assigned work. Many Coast Guard families faced uncertain financial futures as a result of the lack of pay. All told, approximately 42,000 Coast Guardsmen went without pay during the shutdown.

During the shutdown, many Coast Guard families were forced to rely on food pantries and apply for assistance to make ends meet. Many also received donations of food and other staple items, like diapers or toiletries. Donations were often crowd sourced via social media and virtual donation websites.

Members of the Coast Guard should have received back pay by January 31. However, there is the possibility of another shutdown beginning on February 15 should Trump and political leaders fail to reach a compromise.

Extended Waiting Time Between SNAP Dispersal Due to Shutdown

Benefits for February were advanced in January. This decision was based on the extended partial shut down that appeared to be without immediate resolution. As of press time, the US government has fully reopened pending continuing negotiations between President Donald Trump and members of Congress.

However, there is no clear plan for an early dispersal of March benefits as of January 30. There are no additional benefits for February. SNAP recipients will need to stretch their food stamps or EBT funds until the March funds are distributed.

They will need to make their benefits last at least two weeks and as much as an extra month, based on when they received February’s benefits and when the March dispersal is scheduled. Most families will need to make their benefits stretch at least 40 days, with some families looking at 50 or more days between SNAP dispersal.

This extended wait comes at a time when food banks and pantries are already feeling the strain of the shutdown impact. With many federal employees and contractors going unpaid, many turned to local food pantries to feed their families. Federal contractors will continue to feel the impact of the shutdown as they go without back pay.

Food pantries and food bank networks in locations with a high level of federal employees or near Coast Guard duty stations have seen an increase in use over the last two months. A food pantry has popped up at the Coast Guard Academy to serve students, instructors, staff and families stationed there.

The head of the US Coast Guard, Admiral Karl Schultz, acknowledged the increase in food pantry use by unpaid Coasties in an interview with CNN.

“But ultimately, I find it unacceptable that Coast Guard men and women have to rely on food pantries and donations to get through day-to-day life as service members,” Schultz said.

Food banks and food pantries rely on donations from corporations, businesses and individuals in order to secure food and fund distribution. An increase in need, such as during the recent shutdown, is not always met with an untick in donations or volunteers. This creates strain and causes limited food availability.

SNAP Helps Families with Food Stability

SNAP benefits allow qualifying families to purchase food items at grocery stores and farmers markets. Without continued SNAP benefits, families may need to turn to other sources to feed their families.

In order to qualify for SNAP, families need to meet income and demographic criteria set by the USDA and their individual state of residence. Benefits may only be used to purchase food items to consume at home and food-producing seed or plants.

Did your family feel the impact of the government shutdown? Share your story with us!

Assistance for Military Families Who Want to Strengthen Their Marriage

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Military life is rough on a marriage. Deployments, repeated moves, short-notice TDYs or trainings all take their toll.

The good news is that the US military divorce rate is approximately 3% to 3.1%. This marks a period of relative stability, with divorce rates hovering in this range for the last four years. It also is fairly comparable with the average US divorce rate of 3.2%.

Part of this change, from an all time high of 3.7% in 2011 during the height of the Iraq and Afghanistan conflicts, could be due to marriage supports and programs available to military couples.

Assistance for Military Families Who Want to Strengthen Their Marriage

The military, across all branches, has recognized that the deployment tempo and other stressors of this life play a role in marital stress. Repeated deployments to combat zones, unaccompanied overseas assignments and short-notice assignments can all be extremely stressful. For spouses, they might be dealing with the additional stressors of employment uncertainty and frequent stints as a solo parent.

Having resources and opportunities to strengthen your military marriage is crucial to maintain happiness and stability. Your marriage doesn’t need to be in crisis in order to seek assistance. May programs are open to any married couple!

Your military base might have additional resources not listed here.

Marriage Retreats

Each service offers weekend retreat options designed to help strengthen and renew military marriages.

Marriage Care is an Air Force program offered over the course of a weekend. It is open to all active duty, reserve and Guard Air Force personnel.

The Army offers Strong Bonds, a program that helps families and couples build resiliency to deal with the rigors of military life. Programs are offered for couples, families and unmarried individuals.

CREDO is the marriage and family program offered to Marines, Sailors and the Coast Guard. Programs are offered at 10 locations around the world with varying themes to meet different needs. These are spiritually-based retreats.

Military marriage retreats are offered at no cost across all services. Child care may or may not be provided, so be sure to make arrangements as needed. Registration is first come, first served. Many retreats fill up quickly and are in high demand.

MFLC Couples Counseling

Every military base offers confidential counseling via Military Family Life Counselors (MFLCs). While many know about their individual counseling sessions, couples counseling is also available.

Each session is 100% confidential, with no notes taken and no files created. The MFLCs are all trained and licensed counselors, some specializing in marital counseling.

Counseling is free and available on an as-needed basis. Contact the MFLC office on your base (search your base + MFLC) to book your first appointment.

Religious Couples Counseling

If you and your spouse have a strongly faith-based relationship, you might also seek confidential help from a trusted chaplain or other religious leader.

To get started, contact your religious leader to schedule an appointment. Your sessions will be largely faith-based and work to strengthen your marriage by grounding it in religious beliefs and resources.

Faith-based counseling services vary by base and individual chaplain.

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Other Counseling Options

Your marital enrichment is not limited to CREDO retreats, MFLC counseling or sessions with a chaplain. There are several other counseling and marriage strengthening programs available to military couples.

MilitaryOneSource can connect you with a trained counselor via online or phone-based non-medical counseling. Sessions are free and confidential.

You can schedule your first session by calling 800-342-9647. Phone lines are open 24/7.

DIY Support Options

Our military lifestyle is super busy, leaving almost no extra time to spare. If that sounds like your family, you can also DIY marital strengthening programs!

  • Love Every Day: a website that sends you and your spouse prompts daily. They might be random acts of kindness, questions or other activities designed to strengthen your marriage.
  • Couples Therapy Workbook: a workbook, by Kathleen Mates-Youngman, designed to facilitate conversations that will ultimately strengthen and grow your relationship.
  • Love Dare: a prompt-based couples journal that “dares” you to commit to mindful, purposeful acts of love every day for 30 days.
  • 5 Love Languages: learning how you best receive and give love so that you can be intentional in how you demonstrate your affection to your partner.

What Happens If…

Truth time: marriage is hard and takes work. Sometimes, even counseling and retreats aren’t enough to get back on track or heal a relationship.

That’s okay.

If you find yourself headed down this road, there are also resources that can help you navigate this next chapter.

  • MilitaryOneSource: contact non-medical counseling to talk to a counselor about your feelings. It can help you to process what’s happening and to make a plan for the next step.
  • MFLC: working with a counselor in person can help you to process your journey and create a plan to move forward.
  • JAG: contact your local JAG office for guidance about military divorce proceedings. Your JAG office can represent one party in a divorce, but not both. They may not represent you in civil court.
  • Branch-Specific Supports: each military branch provides specific supports and created certain regulations that govern military divorce. Contact your JAG office or unit commander for more information or resources.

How has your military marriage survived and thrived? We’d love to hear your best advice!

How To Make the Most of Your Commissary Benefits in 2019

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You’ve heard the hype. “Save incredible amounts of money at the commissary!” But do you know all the ways to make the most of your commissary benefits?

Listen, I’ve been there with you. When I started out, I wasn’t too sure about just what the commissary could do for me and my family.

Until I took my Mom on a shopping trip. Don’t worry, I paid. I asked her to guess the total for our trip. She was about $100 over. Her eyes got bigger and bigger as our cart was emptied, items scanned and the total was shown.

How To Make the Most of Your Commissary Benefits in 2019

Now, I’m a commissary convert – at least when it comes to certain things. I learned how to make the most of my commissary benefits. Now I’m sharing my best tips with you!

Check the Discount Shelves

Did you know that there is a discount shelf? Sometimes it’s a whole mini section! I swing through there once per visit. Usually, there are four parts to the discount section: frozen meat, cold/refrigerated items, bakery goods, and everything else found on shelves.

I find all sorts of goodies at a reduced cost, from gourmet bread to snacks for my kids to kitchen basics like trash bags.

Mostly, you’ll find goods that have been dinged up or have damaged packaging. The coffee pods inside are still 100% perfect, but the box makes them unsellable at the standard price.

Discounted items are generally not expired, but they might be close. So check the dates on everything that’s edible and plan accordingly.

Order Custom Meat Cuts Cheaper

We just did this over the holidays! For New Years Eve, we wanted to make prime rib, a cut thats not normally stocked in the meat section.

Sure, we could have gone out in town but the cost would have been a lot more. Actually, buying meat at the commissary generally is mostly cheaper than out in town with comparable quality. Don’t believe me? Do your own cost comparison!

Instead of going with a different cut or paying more, we simply asked the butcher. Yup, your commissary has a butcher or at the very least an employee who mans the meat section. We just told him the cut we needed, the approximate weight we wanted and an ideal pick-up date. Then we just showed up, got the meat and paid.

Done.

Plan Before You Shop & Save

Meal planning is such a time saver! It’s also great for reducing food waste and sticking to an eating plan, like whole foods or skipping gluten.

It’s easy to create your ideal meal plan in advance. You might even be able to save a little money in the bargain section, too!

First, use commissary sales fliers to find items that are at reduced prices. Then, see if there are any other discounts if you use your commissary rewards card. Use those as your anchor items and build your menu around that! If you’re feeling extra thrifty, you could even try to match on-sale commissary items with active coupons.

And if you’re located OCONUS, you can use coupons up to six months past their expiration date! Saving money for the win!

Shop for Staples

When I hit the commissary, I’m looking for those staple items. I fill my cart with things that I need routinely and that typically cost more in regular grocery stores.

At the commissary, I like to shop for toilet paper and paper towels, dairy products, and meat. My kids’ snacks are also much less expensive than local grocery stores, too.

Combine your major purchases with coupons for extra savings!

Look for Unique Items

Another great perk of the commissary is a super diverse international section. In many traditional supermarkets, you might find items from Asia or typical American-style Mexican cuisine. Of course, you’ll get a whole aisle for Italian food.

At the commissary, you can find everything from real Japanese ramen to authentic spotted dick (yeah, I know but it’s a real British food) to straight-from-Germany mustards. Every corner of the globe is covered in the commissary. That’s because our armed forces are located in every clime and place!

Plus, you can often find unique produce items that aren’t always available in the local stores. I’ve seen Okinawan sweet potatoes in SoCal!

Familiar & Friendly

I love to use my commissary benefits on the regular! So much so that some of the baggers know my kids on sight. It’s so nice to see friendly, familiar faces when we shop.

Plus, especially overseas, it’s nice to have access to my normal brands and foods that I can’t find on the economy. The extra savings doesn’t hurt either!

What are your favorite commissary benefits? Do you have secret money saving tips? Share your insights and stories with us!

Do You Bury Yourself in Social Media?

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A few months ago, I looked up and realized that I was pretty checked out of my own life. More accurately, I was checked out of my actual, non-virtual life. I had buried myself in social media, diving in to escape the stress of real life and using my virtual work as an excuse.

I didn’t wake up one day and just decide to basically “live” on Facebook or Instagram or Twitter. My habits were developed and honed over the last decade of military life. I’ve been driven by necessity and opportunity, business and escape.

Are you there, too?

Do You Bury Yourself in Social Media?

At first, I used internet chat rooms. That was way back in 2008 or 2009, before Facebook was the monolith of social interaction that it is today. Chat rooms were how I connected with other significant others while my spouse was away at training and MOS school.

But it was easy to disconnect, as simple as shutting my laptop or hitting the power button.

As Facebook expanded, it was easier to connect and find communities. My social plans, like unit events or neighborhood parties, were planned on Facebook. Our unit maintained a Facebook page. My business was, and still is, social media based.

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Facebook was the connection to my husband when he was deployed for a year. It was how we connected and shared pictures.

Facebook is how I stay in touch with distant family members, including my own parents and sister, no matter where the military sends us. They love seeing my kids grow up. Having Facebook and Instagram makes it really easy to get those glimpses of lives lived far apart.

Social Media was Taking Over My Life

Pretty soon, I was checking Facebook multiple times each day. The rise of the iPhone and apps made my habit easier to access. My social network was in the palm of my hand, just a swipe or touch away.

Waiting at the doctor’s office or at the mechanic, I was swiping through social media. Facebook and Instagram became my default “killing time” activity.

As we moved around the country and then the world, social media was my way to keep friendships alive. It was my research tool to make moving a little bit easier, checking out the latest info on our next base or collecting travel tips for our next adventure.

Later, as I created my blog and launched a parent coaching business, spending hours on social media could be spun as “work.” I was creating posts, building connections with potential clients, and growing my network.

My Escape from Life

Really, social media had kind of taken over my life. I was no longer “present” in my actual real life.

Instead of experiencing my OCONUS life, I was hunting for the next best ‘gram spot or a way to twist a cool trip into a social post. I was “working” by scrolling on Facebook instead of playing with my kids.

Enough was enough. There is nothing so important online that it trumps living real life.

But I also get how useful social media is for military spouses. We almost need it to get the best picture of our next PCS move – schools, housing, commutes, jobs and possible friendships connections.

Try a Social Media Diet

I needed to do something. Cutting all ties just isn’t realistic. My business lives online, so I do need accounts to make it more profitable and functional. But social media would no longer be my focus.

My first step to reconnect with myself and my life was to take Facebook and Twitter off of my phone. Instagram stays, for now, but with time limits. Now, I get notified when I reach 30 minutes of daily Instagram use.

Facebook checks will be limited to just a few times a day, only when my kids are at school. It’s such a time suck and is really overwhelming sometimes.

I’m making a point to only hop onto my computer during working hours, when the kids are at school. Once they get home, the computer is shut and the phone will be mostly down.

I’m giving myself some grace. My tech is where my recipes are stored, how I do quick research and is the keeper of my music library. So, my phone or iPad might be out during dinner prep. Or I could be hunting for a playlist to listen to with the kids. Little kids have lots of questions, and they need answers fast. Hello, Google.

I’ve been doing this social media diet for the last month or so. And already, I’m feeling so much lighter and happier. I’m present with my kids in a way that I really haven’t been in a while. It feels so very good to not be buried in my social media bubble anymore.

Have you been burying yourself in social media? Or have you broken a virtual habit? Share your story with us!

Spice Up Your Diet with Healthy International Cuisine

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Who said that diets needed to be bland or boring? You can totally eat delicious, flavorful dishes that are healthier for you!

Best of all, you can find all the ingredients you need for these yummy internationally-inspired dishes right at the commissary!

Spice Up Your Diet with Healthy International Cuisine

Yes, the commissary carries all the standard American basics: marshmallow fluff, Chef Boyardee and tons of peanut butter. In between all the basics are incredibly tasty international foods that will add variety and spice to your diet.

Many of these foods are connected to military duty stations around the world, from Asia to Europe and around the US, too.

Asian Cuisine to Enjoy Tonight

There are tons of duty stations through Asia, from South Korea all the way to Southeast Asia. The commissary carries a broad spectrum of cuisines and delicacies from all of these rich cultures.

Pick up a bottle of bulgogi sauce and thin cuts of steak. Marinate the steak in the sauce, then cook as preferred. Use your spiced up Korean-inspired steak to top a salad or rice bowl!

For salad, use whole peeled oranges, sliced radish, and slivered almonds to add crunch. In a rice bowl, top with kimchi, zucchini, and toasted sesame seeds.

You could also grab a package of noodles – ramen, udon, or soba – from Japan. Simmer your noodles in vegetable or chicken broth, or DIY your own soup base.

Serve them steaming hot in a bowl. Add in boiled eggs, pickled radish, bean sprouts and thin slices of meat like chicken or pork. You could even add tofu. It’s the ultimate Japanese comfort food on a chilly winter day!

Throughout Asia, stir fry is the quick meal of choice. It’s so simple to make and it’s a great way to use up leftovers.

In a hot pan, quickly cook up meat or tofu with the veggies of your choice. This is a great way to finish up leftover lean meats, like chicken or pork. You could add soy or teriyaki sauce, but it’s delicious with a little bit of ground ginger and sesame seeds, too.

Serve your stir fry with a bowl of rice, a side of noodles or as a stand-alone main dish.

Spicy Southeast Asian Cuisine

Even though Vietnam is known for balmy weather, soup is a mainstay of their traditional cuisine. Make your own pho at home with ingredients from the commissary!

Pick up rice noodles, fish sauce and the other ingredients in the baking and international aisles. You’ll love the delicious smells filling your kitchen while your soup simmers!


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Serve piping hot with traditional toppings, like spicy chilis, Thai basil, bean sprouts and sliced lime.

For a spicy appetizer, or main course, pick up rice paper wrappers and sweet chili dipping sauce. Make your own fresh spring rolls!

Follow the directions on the rice paper wrappers to prep them. Then fill each wrapper with thinly sliced fresh veggies, cooked shrimp or shredded chicken. Dip your spring rolls into the chili sauce for a yummy way to eat healthy!

Enjoy the Flavors of Germany

Germany might be known for sausages and beers, but there are healthier dishes mixed in. In fact, sauerkraut is known to be particularly good for improving digestion!

Whip up pork chops and sauerkraut for a taste of Germany wherever you are stationed! Bread pork chops and bake until golden brown. For a healthier option, skip the breading and grill your meat instead!

Serve with a hearty helping of sauerkraut, your favorite green vegetable and a side salad.

Make breakfast for dinner with German pancakes. You won’t even have to shop for special ingredients. Everything you need is probably already in your pantry.

Dish up your pancakes with a side of sliced fruit or scrambled eggs. And remember to go light on the syrup!

Bring English Food to Your Table

It’s a small but mighty nation with yummy food to match. Add a British twist to your table with healthy versions of classic foods.

Make your own lightened up fish and chips with frozen fish from the commissary. Choose a white fish, like cod or tilapia, that has already been cut into small filets.

Skip options that already have breading and do it yourself. Add just a light coating of flour along with salt and pepper. Bake until cooked through.

You could buy pre-made fries, like sweet potato or traditional crinkle cut fries. But it’s fun to DIY this, too! Slice potatoes into fry-sized strips, season and bake until golden brown.

Another great British choice is bangers and mash, or sausages and mashed potatoes.

Lighten this up by choosing turkey sausage and using mashed cauliflower or a cauliflower/potato blend. Skip the heavy cream and dairy by opting for vegetable broth and just butter in the mash. Add an extra helping of your favorite vegetables to fill your plate with healthy choices.

What delicious international cuisine have you discovered at the commissary? Share your best finds in the comments!

How to Lose Holiday Weight on Your Military Base

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Halloween rolls right into Thanksgiving and then we head into the month-long overindulgence of Christmas followed by New Year’s Eve. Chocolate everything, turkey with extra gravy, cookies and all that stuffing. I’m ready to lose holiday weight STAT.

There are tons of great options in the military community to help trim down after a busy holiday season.

How to Lose Holiday Weight on Your Military Base

Everything you need to start getting back into fighting form is right outside your door, and on your local military base!

Eat Right at the Commissary

Getting back into shape starts by eating right and your commissary has tools to help you find healthy foods. As you’re shopping, keep an eye on the shelves for nutrition labels to help you choose better-for-you foods.

The Nutrition Guide Program has helpful labels so that you can find healthier foods. Everything is color-coordinated and features an eye-catching graphic logo. You’ll be able to figure out which items are organic, low fat or whole grain.

Where I normally get into trouble are the middle aisles, where the snacks live. To avoid temptation, stick to the outside of the store. That’s where the whole foods are housed. The only exception you might want to make is for the freezer section, especially frozen vegetables and meats or seafood.

Fill your cart with produce, dairy products and meats or seafood.

Get Fit for Free at the Base Gym

Every military base has at least one fitness center that’s open, for free, to troops, dependents and retirees. Head down to your local base gym to check out what they have to offer.

Many fitness centers have a variety of standard equipment, like cardio machines, weight machines and free weights. Some centers also offer additional resources, like a pool or track.

You can drop into group fitness classes or join an accountability club, too! Many military fitness centers provide free group classes, like spin or yoga, as part of their programming. Some locations might also provide accountability programs, like running or cycling clubs. Log your miles every week to earn rewards!

Join a Military-Centered Fitness Community

If the gym isn’t your thing, connect with a non-traditional exercise group.

A super popular running group that’s already established is Stroller Warriors. No stroller or kids required! Join your local chapter for a January run. Groups are easy to find. Search your base and Stroller Warriors on Facebook.

You could also create your own DIY fitness group wherever you are located. Team up with friends, neighbors or folks in your unit. Get together for gym sessions, try out CrossFit workouts of the day or head out for a run. Use free YouTube videos or create your own programs together.

Keep each other accountable by tracking workouts and nutrition on a fitness app, like MyFitnessPal.

Hire a Personal Trainer

Fitness and personal training is a huge market in the military community. No matter where you are stationed, there are certified personal trainers in your military community.

Many personal trainers are military spouses who tailor their programs around their clients’ busy lives, factoring in deployments, erratic schedules or lack of child care.

Rates vary by location, so reach out to your local military community. Your on-base fitness facility might even have recommendations or personal trainers on staff.

Work with a Nutritionist

It’s easy to get stuck in a rut at the chow hall or cooking the same kid-friendly meals. Or you might be trying to eat better, but aren’t quite sure where to start.

Find a military-connected nutritionist or meal planner in your community.

A certified nutritionist can create an eating plan that accounts for your fitness levels, food preferences and other dietary needs. Your nutritionist can help you find recipes, share eating tips or introduce you to different foods.

Some nutritionists also run in-person or virtual accountability groups. You’ll be able to harness the power of a supportive community to make big changes in your life!

Plus, military-connected nutritionists will have experience shopping at the commissary. And they might be able to direct you to hidden gems on the economy, too.

Your MTF might have nutritionists on staff or have a curated list of preferred nutritionists.

Get Active with Others

Your MWR or FSS, as well as your local single service member program, might offer cool opportunities to get active with others in your community.

Depending on your location, you could find ski trips, hiking, scuba diving or horseback riding. Check with your MWR, single service member or FSS office to get specifics about excursions and trips near you.

Start Small First

There are tons of great options for military troops and families to get back in shape and lose holiday weight. It’s tempting to jump in all at once and try everything.

Instead of overwhelming yourself by trying everything together, start slowly and take small steps. Figure out what is the most reasonable and easiest place to start. Maybe make a plan to join a fitness group or overhaul your eating plans. Then add on next steps as you go.

What are your best tips to lose holiday weight? We’d love to check out your ideas and advice!

Host the Ultimate New Year’s Eve Party with Help from the Commissary

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The countdown is on to 2019. That means it’s time to firm up your New Year’s Eve plans. Instead of fighting the crowds out and about, host your own fun and festive fete in the comfort of your own home!

Host the Ultimate New Year’s Eve Party with Help from the Commissary

Use this handy guide to help you throw a party to remember.

Logistics & Planning

Before you go crazy with party planning, let’s lay out some basics. Who, what, when, and what to wear.

Decide on your guest list. Go with just a few close friends for a smaller, intimate and super personal event. Or invite the whole neighborhood over for a major blow out bash!

Will your party be adults-only or are children welcome? Make that clear on your invites. Your guests will need time to find a good sitter.

Then decide if you’ll be dressing up or keeping it casual.

With a rough guest count, party formality, and child-friendly level determined, you’re ready to plan an awesome New Year’s Eve event! Look to your local commissary for great food options!

Formal & Festive Party Plan

Your party is child-free, or at least has kids supervised away from the adults-only gathering.

Drinks:

Keep your party popping with bubbly cocktails! Or try these simple mixes…

  • Mix creme de cassis into sparkling wine for a Kir Royale! Top with a fresh or frozen raspberry
  • Add a small scoop of lemon sorbet to a champagne flute. Top with a tsp of vodka, then finish with sparkling wine for a Sgroppino

Appetizers:

Make your small plates light and classic, think easy to eat while still being fancy.

  • Use puff pastry shells to make mini quiche, fill with spinach dip and top with melted cheese
  • Pan sear scallops and wrap in bacon before broiling briefly to finish cooking through
  • Set out a variety of cheeses, olives, pickles, and cured meats with tasty crackers

Main course:

If you’re having a sit-down dinner, consider serving a Smithfield ham with vegetables and mashed potatoes.

Try this brussels sprouts recipe:

You’ll need: 1-2 packages frozen brussels sprouts (or about 1-2 lbs fresh); 1 lb bacon; 2 cups dried cranberries; 2 cups chopped walnuts or nuts of your choice; maple syrup or molasses or brown sugar (your choice!)

  1. Set the oven to 400º. Slice fresh sprouts into quarters, leave frozen spouts whole for now. Spread evenly onto a rimmed baking sheet, season with salt and pepper to taste. Bake in oven for 15 min; remove and quickly slice frozen sprouts into quarters. Return and bake until the sprouts are starting to crisp.
  2. While the sprouts cook, prepare the bacon. Fry on the stove or bake in the oven (400º for about 15 min). Once crisp, roughly chop.
  3. In a medium pan, quickly brown the nuts and cranberries.
  4. Once the sprouts are starting to crisp, remove from oven. Add the chopped bacon and nut/cranberry mix, drizzle your sweetener (sugar, syrup, or molasses) over the top. Season with a sprinkle more of salt and pepper, to taste.
  5. Return to oven until fragrant and browned. Serve hot.

Dessert:

Stay classy with chocolate mousse cups!

DIY your own simple version with chocolate and vanilla pudding, whipped cream, cookies or cake, and candy sprinkles.

  1. Prepare your pudding as directed.
  2. Layer the pudding, cake or cookies, and whipped cream into small clear plastic cups.
  3. Top each dessert cup with a final flourish of whipped cream and add sparkle with the candy sprinkles.

Toast:

As midnight approaches, pass out another glass of sparkling wine or a champagne cocktail to your guests. Toast to the new year together!

Family-Friendly & Casual

For parties that include everyone, adults and kids, keep the atmosphere fun and festive with family-friendly food and drink options.

Drinks:

Treat your younger guests to fancy juice boxes, warm apple cider, or sparkling juices.

Adults could choose from a selection of local wine and beer. Help everyone try new things by inviting guests to share their favorite brews and bottles!

Another option is a self-serve bar. Set out the ingredients, and recipes, for classic cocktails and let your guests help themselves.

  • Tonics: 2 oz gin or vodka, 4-5 oz tonic water, garnish with lime
  • Old Fashioned: one sugar cube, 2-3 dashes Angostura bitters, 2 oz Bourbon or Rye whiskey; add to a rocks glass with several ice cubes, garnish with cherries and an orange slice
  • Gin Martini: shake 3 oz gin with 1 oz sweet vermouth in a cocktail shaker with ice; pour into a martini glass, garnish with olives or a lemon slice
  • Selection of whiskey, scotch, vodka, and rum plus mixers and garnish

Appetizers:

Nibble on finger foods that both kids and adults will enjoy!

  • Mini weiners: cook mini hot dogs in a sweet and smoky BBQ sauce; serve hot
  • Meat & cheese plate: slice a selection of cheeses and serve with cured meats, pickles, olives, and crackers
  • Chips & dips: serve potato, tortilla, and pita chips with dips like ranch, French onion, salsa, and hummus

Main Course:

Set up a potluck buffet and invite guests to bring their crowd-pleasing favorite side dish to share! Set up a few mains to help round out the menu.

  • Mini chicken parm: in a 9×13 baking dish, arrange a single layer of precooked frozen chicken snacks from the freezer section; cover with prepared tomato sauce and top with cheese; cook at 350° until cheese is bubbly and chicken is heated through
  • Turkey meatballs: cook turkey meatballs in a prepared tomato sauce; serve with sliced buns and shredded cheese for sandwiches or pasta
  • Sliders: prepare precooked frozen mini burgers according to the package; serve with additional toppings, like pickles or ketchup

Dessert:

Make dessert super easy and sure to please with low-prep classics.

  • Fruit pies: enjoy fresh pie, straight from the oven, with frozen prepared holiday pies; serve with whipped cream
  • Pudding pie: prepare pudding as directed, then pour into a graham cracker crust; chill until slightly firm and top with whipped cream
  • DIY sundae bar: serve a selection of traditional ice cream flavors and set out different toppings, like syrup, nuts, and sprinkles; invite your guests to design their own sweet treat

Toast:

If any little ones make it to midnight, pop a bottle of sparkling juice, like grape juice or apple cider. They’ll feel extra fancy if you serve it in plastic champagne flutes!

Adults can toast with their favorite sparkling wine or a champagne cocktail.

How will you ring in 2019? Share your best New Year’s Eve party tricks and tips in the comments!

Why I’m Grateful To Be A Military Spouse

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Endless moving, constant change, long deployments, never feeling 100% secure in a career because of the PCSing. It’s a lot of stress. Being a military spouse is certainly no cakewalk, even under the absolute best of circumstances.

But…

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I wouldn’t dream of living another life. Ever.

I might not like every part of this military spouse life, but I do love it. It’s given me freedom and support in equal measures, with lots of joy mixed in, too.

Why I’m Grateful To Be A Military Spouse

This life may not be easy, but I’m incredibly thankful to be on this journey!

1. I’m surrounded by experts in all things, all the time

My daughter was very, very ill recently. The doctor’s office was closed and I wasn’t sure what to do. I called the nurse advice line but didn’t feel 100% confident in their suggestions. They couldn’t actually see my poor girl or really get the full picture over the phone.

Instead, I phoned a friend. She’s a nurse and lives just one street over. In minutes, she was in my house with advice I trusted because I trust her. The next day, she called again to see how things had played out and to walk me through what the next steps might look like.

She’s not the only professional I know either. Just in my neighborhood, I’ve got a hairdresser, makeup artist, accountant, pharmacist, personal trainer, vinyl artist, and EMT. Those are just the folks I know!

No matter what problem I have, there is a military spouse friend I can call.

Help with my blog or business? It’s handled.

Medical advice? Done.

Buying, selling, renting or managing real estate? Didn’t even break a sweat.

Any direct sales company from books to makeup to unmentionables? You betcha!

2. I’ve lived farther from “home” than I ever thought possible

I grew up in a small New England town where most people stayed, at least, in the county. My life from college graduation on was mapped out: find a teaching job sort of close by, stay there for 20-30 years, retire and then travel.

The farthest my feet had taken me was up to Montreal and Quebec City for a college student exchange program.

Right now, I’m typing this post from my couch in Japan.

Japan.

I’ve gone from the person who was content to maybe cross a state line to grab a great job to a literal world traveler. We’ve lived in California, DC, and now Japan.

I never thought I would get to visit anywhere beyond the US or maybe western Europe. Now, I can say that I’ve lived in Japan!

3. My kids have bathed elephants in Thailand

They’ve eaten pho in Vietnam, worn hanbocks in Seoul, tried sushi in Tokyo, and walked paths through thousands of years of history.

We have seen the world, thanks to this military life we lead.

Without the gift of our overseas duty station, traveling throughout Asia would have been a pie-in-the-sky dream. We would have stuck with the wonders of America, and been very thankful for the experiences.

But now, I have the image of my daughter’s surprised face the first time she touched the rough wrinkled skin of an elephant. My son’s laughter at the shisa dog dancers rings in my ears. I can still taste the Cao lau, made from scratch with water from an ancient well, in Hoi An.

4. I can try new things often

Traveling brings new adventures no matter what, or where, we explore. But I’m talking about personal and professional new things.

Remember, I thought I would be a teacher for a few decades? Instead, I’m dipping my toes into freelance writing and running my own virtual business. I’ve been able to serve families around the world as a tutor and homeschooling coach. I wrote a book, something I never thought I would do in a million years.

Yes, I’ve been a teacher and worked in schools, too. So that dream is still very much alive!

And our next move has even more potential for reinvention. I can choose to return to the classroom, dive into non-profit work that I’m passionate about, or continue to build my personal brand.

Without the constant moving and changing, my “brand” would still be what it was on college graduation day: elementary and special education teacher.

Instead, I’ve been able to explore different interests and areas with a little bit of a safety net. I’m still not 100% sure where I’ll land next, but I know it will be something exciting and amazing.

5. I get to be Cinderella at least one night a year

Growing up, my best friend and I would go to JC Penny and try on the prom dresses. We weren’t shopping for anything. It was just for fun. Putting on a fancy dress, sweeping your hair up into a formal updo, and wearing more makeup than normal is exciting!

I love that one night every year I get to play Cinderella with my own handsome knight in shining armor on my arm.

So, I might moan and groan about finding a sitter or trying to get dressed with a toddler underfoot. But deep down, I live for this. The ball is my Super Bowl.

I love to see everyone in fancy clothes, on their best behavior before dinner and then breaking it down on the dance floor after dessert.

Watching the motivational videos, especially the Birthday Message, makes me tear up every year. If there’s a remotely poignant guest speaker, I’ll be trying to hold back the waterworks!

I’m so grateful to be part of this supportive, adventurous, incredibly talented military spouse community!

Let us know why you’re thankful to be a military spouse!

Enjoy a December Staycation in Sunny SoCal!

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SoCal is practically vacation land. And it’s all right outside your front door. Whether you’re stationed in Coronado, MCAS Miramar or way up north in the San Onofre region, there is always something to do.

While you’re celebrating the holidays San Diego-style, consider making it a full staycation by exploring all that SoCal has to offer!

Enjoy a December Staycation in Sunny SoCal!

Try our three day San Diego-area staycation itinerary for a long weekend’s worth of fun and sun!

Hang onto your hats because we are going to fit a whole lot of fun and excitement into just a few days.

Day 1: San Diego

Planning to live up your staycation starting the night before? Try to book into the Navy Lodge on Coronado Island, just over the bay from downtown San Diego. If you can’t book a room at this specific location, there are options. San Diego is a major hub for the Navy and USMC. Many bases offer DOD lodging for recreation at reasonable rates.

Start your day at The Broken Yolk, a top San Diego breakfast chain. There are several convenient locations throughout San Diego and the surrounding communities. Pick a yummy breakfast burrito or go for classic pancakes. There are no bad choices.

After you fill up, get your thrill on at SeaWorld! Use your Waves of Honor tickets to score free entry. Enjoy exciting roller coasters, fun dolphin shows, and even connect with your favorite Sesame Street characters. Enjoy some heavy snacks and head out in the early afternoon for your next location.

Go to Balboa Park, in the heart of San Diego, for a relaxing late lunch or early dinner at The Prado. They decorate for the season and always feature fresh, locally inspired cuisine. Rumor has it that they make a margarita to die for!

Once you’re full, walk over to the iconic San Diego Zoo. While you have a little daylight left, take the gondolas (free with a standard ticket purchase) to the back of the zoo. Check out the elephants, lions, and other animals while you stroll back toward the front. As the sun goes down, the lights will pop on and Jungle Bells will start! Enjoy holiday music with a SoCal spin, animal encounters, and checking out select animals at night.

The zoo closes at 8 pm. If you’re still looking for a little fun, go to the Gaslamp District for a light dinner and drinks. You can find something for everyone, including children, in this happening neighborhood. From little hole in the wall local spots to bigger national chains, there are plenty of options! Plus, it’s exciting to wander around under the Christmas lights.

Day 2: Disneyland

It wouldn’t be a SoCal staycation if we ignored the main mouse: Mickey! Get up early, if you can, and head to Anaheim. It’s just about two hours from San Diego by car.

If you go purchase your tickets by December 16, and go before December 19, you can still take advantage of the 2018 Military Salute pricing. Check with ITT for details or to purchase tickets. If you’d like to stay near the park and squeeze every last bit of fun from your day, there are tons of great hotel options nearby.

You’ll be spending your whole day at Disney, so relax and enjoy! Disneyland and California Adventure do Christmas in a major way. Look for special snacks and souvenirs at shops throughout the park. Maybe pick out an ornament to remember your magical December SoCal staycation?

You could do just one park all day, or hop between the parks. Remember to specify which option you’d prefer when you purchase your tickets.

Stay until the fireworks show.

Day 3: Temecula

It’s the last day of your staycation. You’re probably absolutely wiped right now. Perfect, it’s time to unwind in wine country!

First up, enjoy breakfast in Old Town Temecula. There are a few small town-type diners here that serve up classics, like scrambled eggs and corned beef hash.

Next, head to SouthCoast Winery. No, the wine bar isn’t open yet. You’re going to the spa for some rest and relaxation. After a few hours of pampering, connect with your wine tour for a day of tasting! Best of all, you’ll have a safe ride. Just make sure you’ve also booked a local room, too. There are plenty of hotel options at a variety of price points! Be sure to use Military Shoppers Travel and Rewards to book your stay for additional savings.

Sip yummy Temecula wines. Some popular wineries include:

  • Wiens: sample their orange infused sparkling wine, Amour de l’Orange
  • Callaway: try a pour of Zinfandel
  • SouthCoast: their wine menu is extensive and it’s hard to pick even a few favorites!
  • Robert Renzoni: known for their big, jammy red wines

Temecula is a super laid back, casual tasting experience that the whole family can enjoy. If you’re bringing the kids along, skip the wine tour and spend the day at a kid-friendly winery. Wiens has a wide lawn where children can romp. Wilson Creek even has a whole wooden playset for kids to enjoy. It’s set back from the main winery.

Whatever your tasting choice, make sure you designate a driver or call a cab.

After your tasting, enjoy a quiet dinner in Temecula’s Old Town. There are several SoCal style Mexican restaurants, as well as BBQ and upscale dining options.

In the morning, head back to your home base, exhausted and happy.

What are your favorite SoCal or San Diego staycation ideas? Share your top tips in the comments!

Holiday Traditions Around the World that MilFams Love

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Pop into a military family’s home in North Carolina and you might find origami cranes on the tree and stollen sharing space with a nice bottle of California red wine on the table.

Military families are sent all over the country and around the world. Along the way, we mix a few local holiday traditions into our family celebrations.

So pop a Christmas cracker, light the Advent wreath and deck the halls this season with holiday traditions around the world!

Holiday Traditions Around the World that MilFams Love

With military families celebrating around the country and across the globe, we’ve picked out a few unique and special traditions that we love.

Advent Wreaths

This is a German tradition originally but has definitely spread around the world. Advent wreaths use winter greens, like pine boughs, and candles.

Place four candles into the circle of pine branches. Light one candle each Sunday leading up to Christmas so that by Christmas day all four candles will be lit!

Japanese Christmas Cake

Following World War II, this decadent whip cream-filled cake became popular to show how Japan rebuilt from almost nothing.

Today, you can buy a yummy “kurisumasu keki” all over Japan. You’ll love the perfect strawberries on top along with the kawaii (cute) candy decorations.

Christmas Crackers

Say “Merry Christmas” with a pop with this tradition from the UK! Set a cracker beside each table setting or leave a big basket out on the coffee table.

Guests pull both ends of the cracker, a paper tube with treats inside, which opens with a bang. Inside the cracker are candies and paper hats, plus other small toys and surprises.

Holiday Luau

Nothing says Christmas in Hawaii like a big, community luau and pig roast! Sway to island music and greet each guest with a lei.

Whether you are enjoying a day of tropical sunshine or sitting in a few feet of snow, your Christmas will be merry and bright.

Smoked Christmas Ham

Set your holiday table with a delicious Southern-smoked ham from Virginia or Tennessee! This tradition from the southern United States is a classic.

US-based families can keep the flavors of the South on their holiday table no matter where they live. Many top ham companies will ship throughout the lower 48!

Christmas Pickle

No one is quite sure where this tradition comes from, but it is definitely connected to German blown glass ornaments. Pick up your own pickle Christmas ornament in Europe, or anywhere really.

On Christmas Even hide the pickle in your tree. In the morning, the first child to find the pickle gets a “bonus” gift!

KFC for Christmas

You won’t find a turkey or even a nice honey ham on Japanese Christmas tables. Instead, you’ll find a big bucket of the Colonel’s special recipe chicken!

KFC meals are a huge Japanese holiday tradition. With several packages to choose from, ordering begins about a month before Christmas. You could even grab a meal complete with cake and sparkling wine!

St. Nicholas Day

For kids around Europe, especially in Germany, December 6 is one of the hallmarks of the holiday season. If you celebrate St. Nicholas Day, your own kids might have a hard time sleeping on December 5!

Set our your child’s shoes for St. Nick to fill with toys and small treats for good girls and boys. This sweet holiday is a great way to kick off the holiday season, celebrating giving to others!

Mince Pies & Figgy Pudding

Enjoy these festive British treats to get into the spirit of the season!

Mince pies have a variety of fillings, with fruit, meat, and spices in the mix. The recipe has shifted over the centuries, with many families creating their own unique twists on tradition.

Figgy pudding is a fruit-filled, booze-soaked cake. This is definitely an adults-only treat from the UK!

Twelfth Night

Many European countries, including Germany, celebrate the Feast of the Epiphany, or Twelfth Night, on January 6. There are some connections to Christian stories, including the celebration of the three kings who visited Jesus.

It is also a great reason to prolong the holiday festivities with parties and good times! Gather together with family and friends for a night of celebrating.

Surfing Santa

St. Nick might show up on a surfboard in SoCal or an outrigger in Hawaii! Many local holiday decorations feature the man in red sporting a festive Hawaiian print shirt and hanging ten.

Pick up your own local Santa figure to display at your home during the holidays!

 

What special holiday traditions have you picked up over the years? We’d love to read about your Christmas traditions from duty stations near and far!