CBS News reports Montana had 4,300 double proxy weddings in 2021. A proxy marriage is a legal option for those who cannot be present at the same time for the wedding ceremony, and “double proxy” means both parties are absent. A proxy wedding can be a terrific option for American service members. Preparing for a military wedding can be a complicated affair because of deployments, training schedules, or frequent moves. Having a proxy wedding can simplify this. Here are some guidelines on arranging a military wedding by proxy.
Know The Requirements
There are only a handful of states where proxy marriages are legal. Montana, Colorado, Texas, Kansas, New Jersey, Utah, and California each have different requirements and fees. Finding out from the local county clerk’s office will be a practical first step. In California, for example, only single proxy marriages are legal, and the stand-ins must have a power of attorney from the service member. In Montana, one party must be a resident or a US military member for a double proxy wedding.
Tying The Knot
It may be unconventional, but you can still celebrate your love. You can have a ceremony and all the trimmings of typical weddings that can be simple or elaborate. Tying the knot at home may be ideal; your future spouse may not physically be with you, but it will be just as memorable as your loved ones are around you in a familiar place. It is also kinder to the budget, more intimate, and provides flexibility when choosing the big date.
Validating The Marriage
You will need to submit additional documents to authenticate the marriage. The general list includes affidavits, written statements, photos, and hotel or plane ticket receipts. These will prove that you and your partner had a romantic relationship before the ceremony. Requirements may vary depending on the state. You can learn what they are from the local marriage bureau.
A proxy wedding is a practical option for American service members who want to tie the knot. It is one way to honor your relationship in a non-traditional way. A valid marriage also ensures you will receive all the benefits and help granted to spouses. You can always have a renewal of vows or a second wedding when both of you are in the same place at the same time.
*Article submission by guest writer Jennifer Dawson
