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Why We Serve

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“I didn’t choose this life. He did,” I casually joked to a fellow military spouse once.

“But when you choose him, you choose it to. By marrying him, you said yes to the Navy,” she said.

Wow. Up until that very moment, this idea that I picked military life for me never entered my brain.

Up until that moment, I felt like I didn’t have a choice in the matter. Up until that moment, I felt like military life was tossed upon me and I had to accept it and move on.

Now I see things a little differently.

Why We Serve

My husband volunteered for military service one month before I met him. He raised his right hand and took the oath in August 2001.

He volunteered to serve in the Navy for a few practical reasons:

  • He needed in-state tuition to afford his out-of-state college.
  • He needed cash to pay for college.
  • He wanted an adventure.
  • He wanted to help people.

I joke that a Navy recruiting poster that said “Our Engineers don’t work in cubicles” was the REAL reason he joined the military.

Now nearly 14 years later, the 4 reasons he decided to stay in the Navy aren’t exactly the same. Every time he accepts new orders and we PCS, we, as a military family, are choosing to serve and sacrifice for our country. We are answering the call to serve.

2015 Armed Forces Day

Why do we serve? Why does my husband stay in the Navy?

The reasons for my husband’s military service are still simple and practical. He serves today because:

  • We have health care coverage for us and our children.
  • TSP is the best retirement investment plan. Period.
  • We get the adventure of living in different parts of the country for short periods of time.
  • He is able to work with many dedicated service members who have taught him how to be a leader in his community.
  • He is able to be a leader for young service members.
  • His job is challenging and rewarding.
  • He has a lot of responsibility in his job.
  • He helps people.
  • People help him.
  • People help our family.
  • We meet and get to know military friends who become our instant family.
  • And for a thousand more abstract reasons that are difficult to put into words.

During some challenging moments, I often ask myself “why do we do this? Why do we continue to move every 2 years? Why does my husband deploy and leave his children to help people in another country? Isn’t there an easier way?”

Of course, there is an easier way.

But that way isn’t the way for us. This complicated life, military life, with its highs and lows, quirks and uncertainty, is the way for us.

Why We Serve

That’s why we serve.

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My Husband, My Soldier, My Hero

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Before my husband, I already had a huge appreciation for our men and women in uniform because of my dad, a retired Air Force Master Sergeant. He was the first important man in my life and is undeniably my first hero. After growing up with an Air Force presence, I was honestly nervous to start a relationship with a military man. I had an idea of what would lie ahead and I was scared.

Our service members are amazing and I have the utmost respect in everything that they do. I didn’t know if I, myself, could handle the lifestyle as a military spouse.

Then, I was sent a direct online message.

My husband messaged me on an online dating site and that how our relationship started. We may have not met in a glamorous or unique circumstance, but it’s our story and I’m proud of everything that our relationship has endured from that point on. Thank you, Internet for bringing my husband to my life.

He signed on to the dating website while he was deployed and I was looking to experience a new way to meet men. We talked about anything and everything for months before we were able to meet in person and the rest is history.

Despite being in high-stress environments and situations that I’m not going to even try to comprehend, he was wonderful to me and made the distance work. The military did have a big influence with how we maintained our relationship, but he turned me around on my thoughts about a long-term future with a service member.

He made it easy for me to seal the deal and say yes to a lifelong adventure with him.

My Husband, My Soldier, My Hero

Before orders took him overseas, we put together a quick courthouse ceremony in my hometown. I had a childhood friend of mine follow us around the state capital area to take pictures of us. My then-fiance was wearing his ACUs and it was honestly one of the first times I have ever seen him in his uniform in person. When we were dating, it would always be during the off-duty hours, so he would be in his civies.

As we were walking around town, complete strangers were walking up to us and thanking my husband for his service. They recognized him in his uniform and went out of their way to make sure he knew that there were people either thinking of him or supporting him. It made me appreciate the little things that weren’t so upfront before because I never saw him in his uniform. That piece of clothing symbolizes so much more than just my husband, but everyone else that wears it.

When we were walking around town that special day, it made me realize the choice my husband made to serve our country as one that not only myself admired, but people that never even met him. It was a humbling experience and ultimately became the first moment I truly felt like an Army spouse.

We all have different experiences that contribute to the greatness of our military community.

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